Mirroring in Parenting

Being excited when our kids are excited, sad when they are sad, taking fear seriously, and reacting appropriately to anger is called “mirroring.” It is literally one of the most important things that we can do for our kids, because it is how a young brain learns empathy. Children whose parents are distant, not engaged, or out of touch with their own feelings to not have their emotions “mirrored” back to them. A crucial stage in their development is missed. They may grow up out of touch with their own emotions, and incapable of understanding the emotions of others. This is how narcissists and sociopaths are made. But parents of emotionally healthy, engaged parents have a huge advantage in life, and the gift of being in touch with their own emotions, and those of others.
“Weep with those who weep, and rejoice with those who rejoice.” (Rom. 12:15) It is important!

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